For some, the idea of parenthood is a lifelong dream. For others, it’s a path they’re happy to avoid. More and more couples are openly rejecting the pressure to have children, prioritising independence, intimacy and financial stability instead. Taylor and Justin Vasu, a young American couple, are part of this growing movement—choosing a life built around freedom, travel, and their relationship rather than nappies and night feeds.
a life of freedom over parenthood
Taylor, 28, and her husband Justin, 27, have been together for six years, and they’re clear about one thing: they don’t want children. Their reasoning is straightforward—they value their freedom and privacy.
Weekends are filled with long lie-ins, exercise sessions together, and spontaneous trips abroad. Last year alone, they managed twelve holidays, alongside what they describe as an active and fulfilling intimate life. “When you don’t have children, you’re not exhausted all the time,” Taylor explained. “You can enjoy being together—even during the week.”
the fear of losing themselves
One of their main concerns is how a baby might change their relationship dynamic. “Some people say that when you have kids, your life is over,” Taylor said. It’s a blunt view, but one that resonates with many couples who worry about losing their spark under the demands of parenthood.
The couple believes that choosing to stay child-free allows them to keep their romance alive—something they see as central to their long-term happiness.
covid changed their outlook
The pandemic was a turning point in their decision. “We lost two years of our lives because of Covid,” Taylor explained. With travel back on the cards, they’re determined to make up for lost time by visiting every destination they missed during lockdowns.
Both share a passion for discovery, and for them, the idea of being tied down too soon feels restrictive. “We love exploring together,” she added, “and right now, that’s our priority.”
the financial factor
Beyond lifestyle choices, money also plays a major role. Raising a child in the United States is far from cheap. According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the cost of raising a child to the age of 18 can reach $233,000, not including university fees. For Taylor and Justin, financial readiness is key: “We want to wait until we’re fully prepared before even considering parenthood.”
choosing their own path
For now, Taylor and Justin are content with their decision. They’re not ruling out children forever, but they are determined to enjoy this stage of their lives without guilt or outside pressure. Their choice highlights a broader generational shift: one where more people are questioning whether parenthood is the default path, or just one option among many.
As Taylor puts it, “This life isn’t for us—at least, not yet.”
