Let’s face it: decoding attraction is rarely straightforward. Between friendly gestures and romantic signals, it can feel like trying to read hieroglyphs without a Rosetta Stone. But if you’ve been wondering whether that woman you’ve been spending time with might actually be into you, there are a few subtle clues that reveal far more than words ever could.
Below are five tell-tale signs she’s not just being polite—she’s genuinely interested.
She finds excuses to touch you
Touch is one of the most powerful forms of non-verbal communication. A light brush on your arm during a chat, a playful tap on your shoulder, or a warm hug goodbye—these are often gentle ways of saying, “I like being close to you.”
Of course, context matters. Some people are naturally tactile, while others reserve physical contact for moments of deeper connection. But if you notice that she seems to touch you more often than anyone else in the room, that’s usually no coincidence.
A friend once joked that he knew his now-wife liked him the moment she “accidentally” brushed lint off his jumper—for the third time in ten minutes. It wasn’t about the lint. It was about finding small reasons to connect.
She subtly tries to impress you
When someone’s interested, they naturally want to show their best side. She might mention a recent achievement at work, her latest hiking trip, or even her knack for cooking the perfect risotto. It’s not bragging—it’s her way of saying, “I’d like you to see what makes me special.”
You may also notice that she brings you up in conversations with her friends or family. That’s not casual—it’s investment. Social psychologist Dr. Monica Moore found that people often “advertise” their interest through self-enhancement and inclusion, both clear signs that you’ve caught someone’s attention.
So if she lights up when talking about her passions—or yours—take note. She’s inviting you into her world.
She makes time for you
We all lead busy lives, so when someone consistently makes space in theirs for you, it speaks volumes. Whether she’s replying quickly to your messages, suggesting plans, or happily reshuffling her diary to see you, these are strong signs of emotional availability.
A woman who’s genuinely interested won’t leave you guessing. She’ll show up—not just physically, but with presence and enthusiasm. And while life can sometimes get in the way, consistent effort is a hallmark of genuine attraction.
If, on the other hand, she’s constantly “too busy” or cancels plans at the last minute, that might be a gentle signal to move on. Real connection is about reciprocity.
She laughs at your jokes—and looks you in the eye
It’s not just about laughter—it’s about connection. When she laughs at your jokes (even the dodgy ones) and maintains eye contact, she’s showing that she’s tuned in.
Eye contact, according to behavioural experts at Harvard University, triggers the release of oxytocin—the so-called “bonding hormone”—which helps build trust and intimacy. If her gaze lingers a moment longer than usual, it’s often her way of communicating comfort and attraction without a single word.
And if she’s shy? Don’t be too quick to misread a lack of eye contact. Some people show interest through small smiles, gentle glances, or subtle body language cues like leaning in when you speak.
She’s genuinely curious about your life
Perhaps the clearest sign of all: she asks questions—not out of politeness, but real curiosity. She wants to know what drives you, what makes you laugh, what you care about. She remembers small details too: the name of your dog, your favourite film, or that half-finished novel you mentioned weeks ago.
When someone takes the time to understand your interests and even shares in them, it’s more than friendly—it’s personal. She might invite you to one of her own activities too, opening the door to shared experiences and deeper connection.
The bigger picture
Attraction isn’t an exact science. Each person expresses it differently, shaped by personality, culture, and past experience. But these five behaviours—touch, effort, availability, laughter, and interest—often form the foundation of authentic connection.
The next time you’re unsure, don’t overanalyse every emoji or every pause in conversation. Instead, look at the overall pattern. As relationship expert Dr. Helen Fisher puts it, “When someone likes you, they make time for you—and they make you feel seen.”
And that, really, says it all.
